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親 — Parent, Intimate, Relative

N4
On: シン
Kun: おや、した.しい、した.しむ

Meaning

Whether you are talking about family or your best friend, the kanji is an essential part of the Japanese vocabulary. While its primary meaning is "parent," it branches out to cover concepts like "closeness" and "familiarity." To grasp this character, look at its three building blocks: (to stand), (tree), and (to see).

A popular and effective mnemonic explains the kanji's structure: a parent is someone who stands (立) on a tree (木) to watch over (見) their child. This image of protective observation defines the essence of a guardian. Beyond biological ties, the character represents emotional warmth. This is why you will find it in words describing kindness or deep friendship.

Technically, this is a 16-stroke character taught in the second grade of Japanese primary school. It uses (the "seeing" radical) on the right side. Mastering this kanji is a major step for N4 learners, as it appears constantly in both formal documents and everyday chats about social circles.

Readings

On'yomi (音読み) — Chinese-derived readings

The On'yomi reading is シン (shin). You will encounter this reading mostly in compound words related to formal relationships, psychological states, or social settings. Since the concept of "parents" is central to society, many shin compounds are high-frequency words.

  • 両親りょうしん (ryoushin) — Both parents
  • 親友しんゆう (shinyuu) — Best friend (literally: intimate friend)
  • 親切しんせつ (shinsetsu) — Kind; helpful
  • 親近感しんきんかん (shinkinkan) — A feeling of familiarity or affinity

Kun'yomi (訓読み) — Native Japanese readings

The Kun'yomi readings are the workhorses of daily speech. The most common is おや (oya), meaning "parent." When used as an adjective, it becomes した.しい (shita-shii) to describe people who are close. The verb form した.しむ (shita-shimu) means to become well-acquainted with something, like a hobby or a culture.

  • おや (oya) — Parent
  • したしい (shitashii) — Close; intimate; familiar
  • したしむ (shitashimu) — To get to know well; to become familiar with

Common Words & Compounds

The kanji creates several essential word groups. These range from family roles to personality traits.

Family and Relatives

  • 父親ちちおや / 母親ははおや (chichioya / hahaoya) — Father / Mother (More objective than 'chichi/haha')
  • 親戚しんせき (shinseki) — Relatives
  • 親子おやこ (oyako) — Parent and child (also seen in oyakodon, the chicken-and-egg bowl)
  • 義理ぎりおや (giri no oya) — Parents-in-law

Social Relationships

  • 親密しんみつ (shinmitsu) — Intimacy; close friendship
  • 懇親会こんしんかい (konshinkai) — Social gathering; networking event
  • 親交しんこう (shinkou) — Intimacy; friendship; social relations

Adjectives and Behaviors

  • 親切しんせつ (shinsetsu) — Kindness; being helpful
  • 不親切ふしんせつ (fushinsetsu) — Unkind; unfriendly
  • したしみやすい (shitashimiyasui) — Approachable; friendly; easy to talk to
  • おや不孝 (oyafukou) — Lack of filial piety; being a "bad" child to one's parents

Example Sentences

Anata no ryoushin wa doko ni imasu ka.

Where are your parents?

Kare wa komatte iru hito ni totemo shinsetsu desu.

He is very kind to people who are in trouble.

Tanaka-san wa watashi no ichiban no shinyuu desu.

Mr. Tanaka is my very best friend.

Hahaoya wa itsumo kodomo no kenkou wo shinpai shite imasu.

A mother is always worrying about her child's health.

Ano futari wa, mou juunen mo shitashii naka desu.

Those two have been close for ten years now.

Oshougatsu ni wa shinseki ga minna atsumarimasu.

All the relatives gather together for the New Year.

Kono hon wo yonde, Nihon no bunka ni shitashinde kudasai.

Please read this book and familiarize yourself with Japanese culture.

Chichioya no tanjoubi ni nekutai wo purezento shimashita.

I gave my father a necktie as a birthday present.

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Memory Tip

Think of the components as a story: A person is standing (立) on top of a tree (木) so they can see (見) further. Why are they there? It is a parent (親) waiting for their child to walk home. This high vantage point allows them to watch over the person they are most intimate (親) with. This mnemonic perfectly links the physical parts of the kanji to its meaning of protective, close-knit family ties.

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